WS Memoir Monday #2: Ideal Marriages

For this Week's theme: Ideal Marriages that inspire you

personally i don't have a specific couple whose marriage inspires me. i don't even consider my parent's marriage as ideal or as a benchmark on how we should pattern our marriage. same goes for hubby's parents. i personally think that marriage is and should be a work in progress between two people. like starting out with the same type of clay and it's up to the partners to mold it into whatever they want.

but what i would consider to be part an ideal marriage would be:

1. contstant communication
2. openess
3. trust
4. you bringing out the inner child in your partner
5. you both know when to be serious and when to act all crazy and carefree
6. never ever letting money get in the way of your relationship
7. and of course, having a relationship with god.
8. growing old together and still see each other the way you saw them the first time.
9. accepting the good traits and the bad as one whole package.
10. being good examples to the kids.

this would be the glue that would make it stick. some marriages would opt for an open one, some would even choose to just stay together without any legalities or contracts, as long as they have something that would make their marriage work, then it's good right?

there isn't a perfect marriage really since if there ever was, that marriage would be boring. it's healthy to have quarrels and tampuhan once in a while. it makes the relationship spicer and interesting.

and from the 5 years that hubby and i are together, we're still getting there. these 10 are always in our to do / to be list in marriage.



so i just found a nice photo online of an old couple since #8 on my list is hubby and i growing old and yet staying in love with each other. but with still the usual asaran, away and tampuhan that we signed up for when we decided to get married.

mother's day for the 4th time

i may not have photos to capture the moment but spending time with my kids are the best gifts ever. hearing them call out to mommy with such need and urgency makes me love my job.

and the best part, i get to be mom all over again, once this little bundle comes out. which by the way still keeps the gender a big mystery! it would have been a great mother's day gift to know right? but that's for next week i guess.

and of course, to my mom who has been enduring all our drama for 28 years. nobody does it better. :)

happy mother's day to all the mommies out there!

how apt for the moment...

just a few minutes ago... blame friday madness...

Nothings so loud
As hearing when we lie
The truth is not kind
And youve said neither am i
But the air outside so soft is saying everything
Everything

All I want is to feel this way
To be this close, to feel the same
All I want is to feel this way
The evening speaks, I feel it say...

Nothings so cold
As closing the heart when all we need
Is to free the soul
But we wouldnt be that brave I know
And the air outside so soft, confessing everything
Everything

And it wont matter now
Whatever happens to me
Though the air speaks of all well never be
It wont trouble me

And it feels so close
Let it take me in
Let it hold me so
I can feel it say...

highlighted parts are the best...

happy feet

this is what i got from the tektite sale. 70% off baby, yeah!! got it for P700.00

purple and blue and black scribbles. lovely!

oh hello there office stuff on the floor! haha

but still wishing for my own pair of vans sneakers like this:

LP#56: Simula pa lang

Ganito kami noon, mga batang magulang. Medyo ligaw pa sa pag-aalaga ng isang sanggol. sa tingin ng iba kami'y naglalaro lamang ng bahay-bahayan. halatang hindi pa handa sa bigay ng tadhana. ngunit sa mga ngiti namin, kami ang pinaka swerte na tao sa buong mundo dahil may anghel kami sa lupa.

at ito ang simula ng aming masayang pamilya.

happy LP sa inyo!

WS Foodie Wednesday #!

this week's running topic of commitment takes on food this time and what better way to share how much you love your spouse through food.

admittedly i am not a domestic goddess and nor do i have the skills in the kitchen. hubby has that covered. his recipes are soul food - to me and most especially the kids. all the food he prepared for the kids were polished off in mere seconds.

here he is preparing his ever famous chili con. (sorry we can't share the recipe. family secret eh) sharing the moment is my best friend. :)


and the finished product:


if you convince us enough, hubby might send some over. hehehe

the long weekend with the kids

thanks to the long weekend, hubby and i was able to spend the long weekend with the kids while they spend their summer vacation with my in laws.

how we spent it is better said in pictures:

kyle wanted a photo while drinking milk. like a baby daw

keon's morning face and his dutdut pillow: tigger

first time in Pepper Lunch with Migs

while i spied Chuvaness and got all giddy and happy. sayang, she didn't stay long for me to have a photo op.

little boys playing house. obviously they're not yet sleepy.

i then realized that it was sunday and hubby and i had to leave and go home to our "other" house. we had to devise a plan to sneak out without the kids knowing or else there would be crying fits between the kids and mommy (har har).

upon reaching home, i just consoled myself with this:

but it just can't compare to how much i miss sleeping beside my boys at night.

WS: Chika Tuesday: Commitment

Topic of the day:

How did your hubby propose?

Hubby was never the type who would propose. And based on the number of years being together, he actually never proposed – either asking me to be his gf or asking me to marry him (more on that later). It was more of an understanding between us that since we both like each other, it’s given that there’s no need to propose right?

And considering that a baby came way before the planned wedding, the thought of preparing a proposal took a backseat. Mommyhood and parenting took the spotlight. and then keon came along, and now baby #3 haha. so how wil hubby ever think about proposing now?

But for some reason, hubby had a change of heart. with the upcoming wedding pegged for 2010. I “required” hubby in a not so subtle way that he has to come up with a mind blowing proposal and a ring to present as well (ha!). A girl can still dream and get her wish right? And so far so good, hubby’s planning it (as he claims). And my only requirement? Something out of the box, different from the usual proposals we get to read in wedding magazines etc. I just want a proposal to call my own and brag about to my friends and a story to tell to my kids. i mean he does owe me a proposal after three kids right? haha

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WS Memoir Monday#1: Commitment

the wives of wifespeaks are back! and this time with something new and exciting! weekly themes and blog carnivals makes everyone happy. and for the first issue, it's Memoir Monday. a themed photomeme, the topic: Commitment.

here's my entry:

this is my favorite photo of hubby being spontaneous in being mushy and cheesy and romantic at the same time. out of the blue, he started assembling the letters while we were watching tv and shyly handed it to me. if i weren't that oblivious, wouldn't notice the little message in the middle.

as cheesy and as simple as it may be. it's quite a big gesture for me. the simplest forms of commitment. i may get my dream wedding next year but the past 4 years tops other dream/fairytale wedding anytime.

this is hubby's commitment at its simplest form.

happy monday memoirs mga misis!

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positivity

a colleague sent out his requisite farewell email to the group today. it was his last day at work.

it was a string of thanks and good memories shared with the whole group. it was really heartwarming.

until i came to the part where he said his thanks to me. he thanked me for all the positive feedback i gave him for all the projects that were assigned to him. i didn't realize that this would have a positive impact on him and how massive a simple gesture of good job, great work had on him. and me.

it felt good that i did something good and made an impact on someone. gosh! this is such a great feeling! so amazing and overwhelming at the same time. so this is what it feels like on the other side of the fence.

now i;m sending all this positive energy to whoever gets to read this. i am happy now and i hope this lasts until the next week. what a good feeling this is!